This is going to be a triggering post – so I want you to be aware before I begin. If you are having a rough day, you may want to wait.
My husband is a wonderful man – unfortunately, he is 10 percent Neanderthal. He is also a Trump voter, although he acknowledges that DJT is a complete asshole. Sometimes, my husband finds my available trigger and sticks his big old foot right on it – which ends in me sticking my foot up his ….
My husband pays a lot of attention to what is on FB and what his friends say. That is most of America, so I’m not going to be too hard on him for that. At the same time, this causes things to come out of his mouth that should never be said.
He was discussing his concerns about the new Biden presidency when he walked into a big pile of shit. He brought up Vice President Kamala Harris and then said…..
Wait for it….
Are you ready…
Deep breath…
“I heard she slept her way into that job!”
I think he realized he had made a mistake the minute it came out of his mouth. Or, maybe it was when he heard what came out of my mouth. I detailed to him EXACTLY how I got my full time job with the National Guard. I told him about sucking off the board during the interview, having to get it on with my supervisor, and I told him that my number one job was to be a walking mattress for the entire BATTALION staff! After all, if you listened to the rumors told by the man who didn’t get the job, that is what I did.
This is part of that abusive relationship that I spoke about in my last job. Even now, a woman who gets ahead got there by giving head. It is repugnant. No one accused Vice President Pence of sleeping with Donald Trump to get his job. Have you ever heard anyone accuse a man of sexual favors for promotion?
No – this is placed strictly on women. The reality of the situation is that I did choose to have some inappropriate relationships my last years in the military. It was not to get promoted…it was self-protection. I had already figured out on Active Duty that “NO” only gets you raped. I had also discovered that being in a relationship with someone made you “off limits” to sexual predation – especially if the person you were “doing” had some rank and power. At the same time – I actually really was crazy about the guy. I did do things I am not proud of…but it was mostly my choice, and I never received any workplace benefit – except to be “off the market.”
Even then…what if a woman likes sex? Maybe she wants to have sex with a lot of different people. If you are a man you get called a stud – if you are a woman – you get called a whore. This is misogyny at it’s very finest. A woman can’t get ahead unless she has sex. Women who enjoy sex are whores and they are dangerous.
Men have to fear us. Donald Trump fears women – which is why he treats us so bad. Sexual violence is never about sex – it is always about power and control. Donald Trump is always about power and control.
On the 100th Anniversary of a Woman’s right to vote – America elected a woman of color into the position of Vice President. I can only imagine what she has put up with to get there. When Kamala Harris told Mike Pence that she was speaking at the debate – I could hear the collective roar of every woman that has struggled just to speak! The earth shook with it.
We have been silenced and abused – but we must continue to speak.
Peace,
Joan