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What I was Wearing Part 2

March 4, 2015

Hello, Friends,

Sorry I have been out of commission for a while. The winter weather, job changes, and some crazy stress have me living in the ruts right now. Of course – it is now March which means that I am starting to panic about the work I have to get done for Sexual Assault Awareness Month – but that is just the normal for me…I wouldn’t call it panic as much as I would call it worried excitement.

As you know – I am helping with an Art Installation project called, “What I was Wearing When I was Raped.” I have been thinking about what I would say – because I will be submitting a piece as well. This year’s theme is all about OUR voices – the voices of survivors – and I am really excited about that. Just to refresh you…here is the poem by Mary Simmerling and the purpose of the project is to do away with these ideas that what someone wears makes them “ask for it.”

What I was Wearing
by Mary Simmerling

was this:
from the top
a white t-shirt
cotton
short-sleeved
and round at the neck

this was tucked into
a jean skirt
(also cotton)
ending just above the knees
and belted at the top

underneath all this
was a white cotton bra
and white underpants
(though probably not a set)

on my feet
white tennis shoes
the kind one plays tennis in
and then finally
silver earrings, and lip gloss.

this is what i was wearing
that day
that night
that fourth of july
in 1987.

you may be wondering
why this matters
or even how i remember
every item
in such detail

you see
i have been asked this question
many times
it has been called to my mind
many times
this question
this answer
these details.

but my answer
much awaited
much anticipated
seems flat somehow
given the rest of the details
of that night
during which
at some point
i was raped.

and i wonder
what answer
what details
would give comfort
could give comfort
to you
my questioners

seeking comfort where
there is
alas
no comfort
to be found.

if only it were so simple
if only we could
end rape
by simply changing clothes.

i remember also
what he was wearing
that night
even though
it’s true
that no one
has ever asked.

What I was Wearing by Joan

What was I wearing when I was sexually assaulted?
Maybe I should ask you, which time?
However, that really doesn’t matter,
Because what I was wearing everytime,
Was a US Army Uniform.

There was supposed to be no gender in a US Army uniform and there was no such thing as race, color or religion. That is what I was told, I was a soldier, the person next to me was a soldier, and so was the person next to that person. We are all soldiers. One of the questions people would ask when I joined is; “What if you go to war and get captured and the enemy rapes you?” I always thought it was a funny question, no different than getting shot…right? However, it is a lot different than getting shot, because most of the time you are shot – it is by an enemy combatant. Everytime I was raped it was by someone who was wearing the same uniform I was.

That is my contribution to the project – that and the last uniform I ever wore. I had put it in a plastic container – rank still on it, sleeves still rolled, pen in the pocket, and the ear plug case still attached. The only thing I stripped was the belt. Now the uniform will have a home and maybe even a purpose.

Thank you to those who have sent me posts – they are more powerful than you may know. The stories are already ripping at the hearts of the people who are part of the system here. They show that we could be their sister, brother, husband, wife, child, or parent. They show that we are normal, average, every day people. We don’t wear little beacons that say, “rape me!” We are them.

I still wonder how long this is going to take to change. The 21 May 2013 issue of Marine Corps Times has a headline “Busted for ‘SAMMICH’ Jokes.” Although it states that Marine Corps leadership won’t tolerate this anymore, a short internet search shows that the Facebook pages F’N Wook and Just the Tip, Of the Spear are still active and posting. In 2015 it is perfectly acceptable to make inappropriate remarks about female servicemembers – including barracks mattresses and sandwich jokes.

“Oh, but Joan, it’s a joke – just a joke.” Really? Okay, let me rephrase a couple of these….(Trigger Warning – uncomfortable statements below – even more…horrible and disgusting racial remarks and I beg your forgiveness but I use them to make a point!)

There is a meme with Darth Vader pointing at Princess Leia and it says, “Sammiches, they don’t make themselves.”

Let’s replace Darth Vader with a white man and let’s replace Princess Leia with a black man. Is it still okay? A white man directing a black man to go make him a Sammich. Better yet – let’s go really overboard and have Former President George W. Bush saying that to President Barack Obama. Is it still okay?

There are memes of women with bruised faces that are captioned, “She burned the bacon” and “I told you no mayo, bitch” and these are okay? Why is this okay?

Would it be okay if we posted these types of things with a white man beating a Native American woman and calling her a “Squaw”?

What about a White Man telling a Latino Man to “lay on your wetback – barracks mattress.” Is that okay?

NO – I say none of it is okay. If you are reading this and you are still in the military and you think it is okay – I dare you to walk up to a high ranking female NCO (such as a 1SGT or CSM or Gunnery SGT) and look at her and say “Go get me a Sammich.” If you are even braver – I suggest you choose a female of color and include a racial remark. Perhaps something like, “Oh, thank goodness, the head house n**** is here to bring me my sammich.” I had an amazing Female 1SGT back in the early 90’s and if you had said this to her…you would STILL be looking for your parts!!

These are not JOKES – a joke is two Jews walk into a bar…WAIT A MINUTE – that isn’t a joke either!! None of it is funny!!

A joke is something funny that when shared makes people happy – all the people – and it is something you can tell in front of your granny – that is a joke. “A toilet was stolen from a police station today…it is a pretty serious crime. The police have nothing to go on.” See – funny!

Women have become the new group to make jokes about and it is disgusting. In a world where one in three women in their lifetime will experience some form of sexual violence – it is unacceptable!

Peace,

Joan

Help Request!!

May 23, 2013

Hello all,

F’n Wook is back on Facebook!  Oh yeah – great stuff on there…go check it out.  It is now posting as Wookie Monster.

Please be sure to check out the page and don’t forget to report it.  Not to stop “free speech” but to create some good order and discipline.

SGT Gary Stein – who founded the FB page Armed Forces Tea Party – was administratively discharged for failing to promote good order and discipline and to remove that FB page.  Speaking politically seems to be against the Marine Corps policy…but promoting mysogyny and sexual violence is okay fine by them!

My father served in the Marine Corp…he is proud that I served in the Army…I wonder how proud he would be of this?

 

Joan

 

F’N Wookie Monster

May 23, 2013

Hello, Friends!

In case you missed it – I received the following from an individual calling “herself” Wookie Monster – she states that she was the page administrator of the Facebook page F’N Wook:

May 23, 2013 at 9:13 am | Reply   edit

Hello Overly Sensitive Internet Crusader,

I am Wookie Monster, known throughout the Marine Humor circles as this name from my time as an adnimistrator – arguably the primary administrator – of the F’N Wook page.

I bet you’d be surprised to know that those pictures you featured were sent to me by the female Marines themselves – mind blowing, huh? In as much as humor is experienced subjectively, it is also expressed in a very subjective way, which is why I do not find certain comedians funny.

Congress Wook has made it seem as though we were some sort of underground rape club within the ranks of the Marine Corps – which is flatly false. I do not dispute that our humor is bitter, misogynistic and offensive. I find Westboro Baptist offensive and most Christians – or theists, in general – offensive, but you don’t see me crusading to shut down pages which encourage people to pray for rape victims or pray for Oklahoma tornado victims as opposed to getting off their lazy asses actually doing something beyond emailing and “liking” pages on Facebook.

You know, the picture of the woman in bondage that I posted, I bet she had some pretty awesome sex during that photoshoot. That was clearly an expression of her sexuality and I merely captioned the picture – it was not a “rape situation,” whatever that phrase means.

If you want to ask me some pointed questions instead of rambling, feel free to contact me at

Sincerely,
~WM

Now – I am not posting this separately so that people can attack what she has to say – so please be kind in your comments. 

The reason I am posting this is to talk about the military culture, the way this all works out for some people.  I want to share one of my own stories about SGT Jerk that I am not sure if I have shared.

SGT Jerk is actually one of the funniest people I have ever met.  He comes off as a fun-loving, happy, “out for the soldier” type of NCO.  I have nearly pee’d myself on more than one occasion around him because I was laughing so hard.

When I was assigned to his platoon there was another female NCO there that I will call Angela.  Angela was a good person…she seemed pretty good at what she was doing…she could be a little “off” at times.  She wasn’t the best NCO I have ever met – but she was okay.  I had actually known her for sometime…but we didn’t see much of each other.

Slowly but steadily, SGT Jerk would point out what she was doing wrong.  He would assign me to do things because, “SGT Angela just doesn’t quite get it right.”  I was fine with that.  Over time I became convinced that she was a sub-standard NCO.  I had no problem going around her or over her as needed.  SGT Angela finally got transferred out!!  Whew…what a relief…cause she was really gettting bad at her job!

A few months later I got my stripes and we realigned platoons somewhat.  SGT Jerk explained that he was going to make SPC BS his 1st squad leader because he felt I was too new a SGT to have that position.  I was placed in a position below an E-4…but that was okay, I just needed to “prove” myself to SGT Jerk.

Suddenly – people started noticing when I made a mistake.  Or someone would say – “SGT Jerk said you really screwed XXXX up.”  I didn’t screw anythign up?  What is up with that!!  SGT Jerk would disappear with SPC BS into the NCO room and leave me to run the platoon.  Next thing I would know he would be in my face about something I did that he didn’t like – or he would accuse me of saying something I didn’t say.  Then he got violent.  At first it was little things, grabbing or pushing – dropping me in front of the platoon.  Before he was done with me I was on the ground in front of the platoon being beaten with a large stick.  SPC BS, who was also a friend of mine and a good guy, actually stopped him.  (The BS is literally his initials 🙂 )  However, SPC BS claims he doesn’t remember any of it.  He protected SGT Jerk. 

Suddenly things became clear to me.  He had three female NCO’s leave his platoon in any way possible.  They all left under the same idea that they were “incompetent.”  They weren’t terrible NCO’s – this is just how he got “rid of us.”  Paint us as lousy soldiers, convince others – even other females, and then you have full control.  The female who he is targeting can’t get anyone to stand with them – because it isn’t SGT Jerk’s fault…it is her fault.

Wookie Monster states that her page is all in good fun. Yeah, there were a lot of things in the military done and said in good fun.  Hell, I had an NCO give me the call sign “D-O-G” (di-oh-gee) because he wanted me to roll over and give head, I mean play dead…that was just fun.  I was the platoon’s only female, might as well have fun with the BITCH concept.  (We even had several of the older/higher ranking females take BITCH names)  After all, these men were my friends and my “brothers” – it is just part of the military humor.   These men weren’t like the “others” that had assaulted me.  I loved these guys and they loved me!  Nothing to fear.

That was until it went too far.  Until I had to file a complaint to make certain things stop.  I had male NCO’s privately tell me they knew he was wrong and to watch my back – but when push came to shove…they supported him.   The NCO who gave me the call sign DOG even came to me privately and said, “If I have done or said ANYTHING to hurt you – please tell me.”  He had not, I had never felt like a “female soldier” under his command – I was just a “soldier.”  But when it came time to stand…they all stood behind him.  Even the other females.

26,000 rapes last year.  There is a rape culture!!  Not only is there a rape culture because of 26,000 of them – there is a rape culture because Commands do very little, or nothing at all, to protect the victims or to proscecute the rapists.

Wookie Monster may find me over senstive – but I have a right to be!  I have a right to worry about next year’s 26,000 and last year’s 21,000!! 

You see, Wookie Monster, you may be providing harmless and funny humor to thousands who just see it as funny.  They don’t believe it – it is just funny.  But what about the few who not only believe it – but act on it!  You may think it is funny to be part of the culture of mysogyny…you may think it makes you one of the guys.  Maybe for some it does.  But what happens when one of them decides to rape a fellow Marine?  One of YOUR sisters…Is it funny now?  Do you really want that to be on your head?

Take my advice, please!  You don’t want to join this club.  You don’t want to see anyone else join this club.  And you don’t want to be part of making it happen!!!

I was raised by a Marine – so I know the pride and honor that the Marines hold for the rest of their lives.  Don’t dishonor them by thinking that this is okay.

Blessings,

Joan